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Saturday, 10 November 2018

Day 18 of 100, Saturday, 10th November


Nope, no luck: another bad night and I still feel as if all my energy has been sapped, but at least my body isn’t covered in pain.

Usual routine: go to bed, fall asleep, wake up, struggle to go back to sleep. Lady Jane came for another prolonged cuddle session after I woke up – she actually fell asleep curled around my hand! It was too darling! She held on to my hand with all four paws and her head resting on my hand, as well.

What’s keeping my mind occupied throughout the night is the complete change of life-style ahead of me. Everything I had planned, wanted, worked towards, all goals, everything will change. Ideas I had of what I wanted to do, how I planned to do them – all different. In part because Pretoria is a completely different place – for one thing, it is more like a metropolis than a city. Which means that crime is a lot worse there – I should know. There is also no time when traffic is calmer. In the Easter Cape, early weekend mornings most people sleep late here, but in Pretoria many don’t, so there’s no noticeable difference in traffic. Shopping is a very different issue, firstly last time I was there, shops would maintain stock levels – you don’t get that now-we-sell-it-now-we-don’t problem. But it also means that I’ll need to find out which store stocks what. Grocery shopping will take a lot longer in Pretoria – and I don’t enjoy shopping, so spending more time doing something I don’t like …

On a positive side, there is also nothing you can’t get in Pretoria. Which means a wider variety of everything – like, I’ll be able to get flat beans in Pretoria, something completely unavailable here. I have no clue why. There are also other specialties, like Carpaccio, which I can buy in Pretoria to make at home – but only in select stores, which are mostly found on the East of Pretoria, a long drive from the North.

So, all in all, different routines, different possibilities, different climate, different culture – a completely different life-style. At least a known one, though not one I would prefer. It’s very different to when I first moved to East London, since I was really excited and looking forward to that change – but this time? Yeah, not really. So I also have to avoid getting depressed. I do that by listing all the positive points.

Another issue is, of course: Work! It will be completely different to what I’ve been doing for the past seven years – I’ll be going back to office routine, and I won’t be working with nor for Europeans. In this case, European meaning exactly that: people who were trained and work by standards practiced in European business. South African management is very emotional rather than professional – although you dare not ever speak those words. It’s all about image, authority, status and pride – leaving very little room for results playing any factor. Which is something I have never been able to handle, in the past. It goes completely against my nature, since I’m a very fair-minded person and have difficulty processing unfairness. I find it difficult to keep my mouth shut when a manager makes an undeniably stupid decision for no reason other than to show me who’s in charge. The worst part, though, is, when that decision has consequences – which I warned would happen – and I’m then held responsible. There is absolutely no logic to it – yet, it is considered ‘professional’ by management. Sadly, the management of the company where I work, operates like that. Last time I was in Pretoria, I did a lot of work to improve operating procedures – all of which was ignored. I wrote an elaborate report. Most fellow employees read it and congratulated me on laying the problems out so thoroughly and the solutions. Management didn’t even open it, let alone read it. I did a presentation during which I got a lot of smug patronizing … like how an adult would indulge a child, not really giving any thought to what is being said. I’m afraid that I have not yet found a way of coping with that in a manner which does not aggravate emotional children. Staying calm doesn’t work, it only aggravates. Nothing worse than pushing someone’s buttons – and finding that someone has disconnected them. I’ve seen someone literally start frothing at the mouth when I stayed calm in the face of really obnoxious arguments. So, work will be an unpleasant challenge – rather than the work, the challenge will be playing mind games. Sigh.

I’ve been considering pouring myself into projects of my own. Treating the ‘work’ as an interference to be endured. Doing what I’m asked to do without applying my brain – and certainly not my full potential. Only as much as I’ll be allowed to apply. I’ll first have to see what the situation is like, what is expected of me, before I can make any plans. At least I won’t have to worry whether what’s expected of me lies within my capabilities – I just have to avoid stepping outside the intellectual boundaries set for me.

Okay, enough of all that depressing stuff.

I’m not feeling too well today, as it is. I feel a bit under the weather, on top of the by-now-familiar low energy. I spent a lot of time today again handing over the game spreadsheet. This time the trial went smoothly and hand-over is complete. I then sent a message to all members about one of the misconceptions that a lot of them seem to have, hopefully they’ll stop making that extra work in future. It’s mere thoughtlessness, not malice. Still irritating, though. Anyway, that’s half an hour a day I have re-claimed!

I’m hoping to ease myself into this new life-style over the next 82 days. Make some of the adjustments when I can, sooner rather than later. Getting up early is a part of that – sigh, if only I could sleep! I’m hoping that, having poured all that crap out of my skull into this blog will help.

For some strange reason, Lady Jane settled herself behind the curtains to nap. She just emerged and wanted cuddles, first she settled in my arms happily, but since she’s a restless one, it wasn’t long before she started getting up and walking on my shoulder, then into my arms again, then back on the other shoulder. This time I caught a glimpse of myself in the mirror – as usual, she has her tail wrapped around my forehead like a living Alice-band! It looks rather weird when the tail is moving.

Well, at the moment my mind feels more at rest than it did this morning, so I’m hoping – once again – for a good night’s sleep. Is this getting old? Yeah, for me, too. I’d love nothing more than to have no further repetitions …

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